Black is the ‘colour’ so many of us fall back on. It’s easy, it’s familiar, and it feels like it “just works.” But I meet countless women who wear black even after being told it isn’t their best shade. Some haven’t discovered their colour palette yet; others simply feel safer blending in. Whatever your reason, it’s worth exploring what your choice of black might be saying — and what you might be missing out on.
When I ask why, these are the reasons I hear most often:
• It’s slimming
• It feels safe
• Everything goes with black
• I don’t want to wear colour
• I don’t want to stand out
• I don’t know what colours suit me
• It’s my uniform
These answers tell me far more than the words themselves. What we wear is deeply connected to psychology, confidence, and identity — especially for women. So let’s explore these reasons with a little more honesty and compassion.
“It’s slimming”
Black can create the illusion of a slimmer silhouette, depending on the cut, fabric and style. But it can also be harsh and ageing, especially near the face. Most of us aren’t looking to add years before our time.
“It’s safe”
Absolutely. If everyone around you is wearing black, you blend in. And blending in can feel comforting when you’re not ready to shine. But safety and self-expression rarely live in the same wardrobe.
“Everything goes with black”
This one always makes me smile. Have you ever compared the blacks in your wardrobe? They’re not all the same. Do some look faded compared to others? Just like any other colour, black has variations — and they don’t always play nicely together.
And if you have a trained or artistic eye, you’ll know that not every colour truly harmonises with black. Colour is art, and art is subjective. What looks “right” is personal.
“I don’t want to wear colour”
This usually means, “I don’t want to be seen.” Children adore colour — it’s everywhere in their toys and books. Somewhere along the way, life teaches us to tone ourselves down. If you’re not ready to reintroduce colour into your wardrobe, your home, or even your car, that’s OK. But it’s worth wondering why.
“I don’t want to stand out”
Wearing colour does draw attention — the right colour can make someone look so radiant you can’t help but notice them. Not everyone wants that spotlight, and that’s perfectly valid. Confidence grows at its own pace.
“I don’t know what colours suit me”
This one has a simple solution. If you’re ready to discover the colours that make you look vibrant, healthy, and confident, I can help. Call me on 07469 246722 and take the first step toward your best, most authentic self.
“It’s my uniform”
This is the trickiest situation because you don’t have a choice. If black is mandatory, focus on what is within your control:
• Add colour near your face with a flattering lipstick, the right colour for you jewellery, or a scarf
• Choose makeup that harmonises with, and enhances, your natural features
• Ensure your hair colour complements your skin tone.
Small touches can make a big difference.
So… should you stop wearing black?
I never tell anyone they can’t wear black. I simply point out when it isn’t the most flattering option. Most of my clients aren’t Winters (the season that wears black best), so black often isn’t their strongest look. Even Winters look incredible when they add a pop of colour to their black.
If you love black, keep wearing it — just consider keeping it below the waist if it doesn’t love you back.
Oh, and I do tell my clients not to get rid of all their black, in case they have a need for “that little black dress (LBD)” or there’s a “black and white” dress code, or a funeral they need to wear black for.
Final thoughts
If something in this article resonated with you, perhaps it’s time to find out which colours really light you up. Get in touch on 07469 246722 — your most confident self is waiting.
If you are one of those who’s lost your way with colour, and were guided before, I’d love to help you get back to your best. Please get in touch and see if I can help. View my packages to see what suits.
